thoughts

[daf]

is it actually possible to have a truly platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex who you find attractive, or does genetic imperative render our best intentions ultimately unrealistic?

Comments

[miss-soap.livejournal.com]

Presumably you mean 'sexually attractive'? I find all of my friends attractive otherwise I wouldn't be friends with them in the first place, but don't necessarily fancy all of them. I believe physical attraction forms part of the basis of all relationships [extra-familial, obv.] to some degree.

But yes, I think it's possible to have an entirely platonic relationship with someone you find physically attractive.

[303factory.livejournal.com]

yes totally, as long as you get the sex out of the way good and early

[bluehelen.livejournal.com]

What miss_soap said.

[mlh4002003.livejournal.com]

NOt in my experience, but then if I am attracted to someone I tend to act on it. Plus I have no problem with casual sex and many girls are terrified of being branded a slut so wont mess around with boys unless they are in a relationship with them.

[untermensch.livejournal.com]

If you use the right drugs on them it doesn't really matter either way?

[ninja-badger.livejournal.com]

Yes.
and No

[mark13.livejournal.com]

Yeah it is. Finding them attractive just adds another facet to the interaction between you.

Although it does depend on your need for ultimate gratification - if not having something you want will drive you insane eventually, it won't work.

[xerode.livejournal.com]

Re: twitter

None taken. I didn't realise my WordPress/LiveJournal crossposter would also post from my Twitter/WordPress crossposter. Oh the joys of multiple plug-ins relying on (and dispatching) the same non-unique application calls. I've had a quick tinker and it should be fixed (i.e. not crossposting Twitter to LJ) but if you see it again, give me a shout.

Re: this post

Not sure at all. Might have more to say later ;)

[flywingedmonkey.livejournal.com]

Ummm. Part of me says "of course" because I have that (both with people I have and have not slept with). Plus if I'm in a happy relationship then external naughtyness is off the cards entirely.

BUT, but but but- IF I'm single and I find someone sexually attractive would I think (not ness act upon in any way) about having sex with them? Course I would. So is that platonic?

JmC
I have an icon for this and everything

[mlh4002003.livejournal.com]

Why would you WANT a platonic relationship if you find someone attractive? Also, I have ended friendships when I have realised the guy just wants to get i my pants as I feel its cruel to lead them on if I know it will never happen.

[jonnytuna.livejournal.com]

I always felt sorry for Plato. Having his name used for describing a non sexual relationship.
I'm sure he must have fancied a few women occasionally

[libee.livejournal.com]

Yup. Most of my friends are guys and I've only slept with about 60% of them. *grin*

[lucifiction.livejournal.com]

Yup.

[ahura-mazda.livejournal.com]

No!

[dakari-mane.livejournal.com]

You can. Though occasionally things will go wrong & someone gets hurt.

[haltedlogic.livejournal.com]

Yes but you will at one point or another feel horribly hurt/ jealous/ angry. If it's worth that then go for it.

[gommog.livejournal.com]

I'd say yes but it kinda depends if they're fuck them attractive or have babies with them attractive?

[redlaurie.livejournal.com]

Yes- you just kind of acknowledge it and move on. If the concept of friendship is sacred then you just don't fuck with it.