is it actually possible to have a truly platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex who you find attractive, or does genetic imperative render our best intentions ultimately unrealistic?
Presumably you mean 'sexually attractive'? I find all of my friends attractive otherwise I wouldn't be friends with them in the first place, but don't necessarily fancy all of them. I believe physical attraction forms part of the basis of all relationships [extra-familial, obv.] to some degree.
But yes, I think it's possible to have an entirely platonic relationship with someone you find physically attractive.
yeah, i did mean "sexually attractive"... i was just thinking that the element of physical attraction might mean that whilst it's possible to have a platonic relationship with them, one's advice & actions wouldn't stem from purely platonic motivation.
I think much of the motivations aspect would depend on your own relationship status. If you were attached and committed, then I think your actions would be less ambiguous than if you were single and potentially - even only vaguely - hoping you might be able to get into their pants.
NOt in my experience, but then if I am attracted to someone I tend to act on it. Plus I have no problem with casual sex and many girls are terrified of being branded a slut so wont mess around with boys unless they are in a relationship with them.
not yet.. iceland wiped me out for cash so I'm waiting to get paid on tuesday then I'll order it online! Along with a new chair and new plates.. (its been a month of domestic accidents)
To clarify. Are you allowed sex if you canrry on being platonic friends afterwards,a gree it was fun, and get on with your lives without all that relationship stuff?
None taken. I didn't realise my WordPress/LiveJournal crossposter would also post from my Twitter/WordPress crossposter. Oh the joys of multiple plug-ins relying on (and dispatching) the same non-unique application calls. I've had a quick tinker and it should be fixed (i.e. not crossposting Twitter to LJ) but if you see it again, give me a shout.
Ummm. Part of me says "of course" because I have that (both with people I have and have not slept with). Plus if I'm in a happy relationship then external naughtyness is off the cards entirely.
BUT, but but but- IF I'm single and I find someone sexually attractive would I think (not ness act upon in any way) about having sex with them? Course I would. So is that platonic?
Why would you WANT a platonic relationship if you find someone attractive? Also, I have ended friendships when I have realised the guy just wants to get i my pants as I feel its cruel to lead them on if I know it will never happen.
hm. in my experience it's possible it's just not particularly easy, and peopel often find after a few quick fucks tehy don;t really liek the person anyway and can't be arsed with teh work. If the people behind it are actually friends though, or liek each other AS WELL as fancyign each other, it's good.
It's easy to think you actually liek someone when all your ally want to do is fuck them, and once you have, you are like "oh, hang on - you are fit but dull"
On teh other hand you can genuinely liek people, think they ar fit, fuck them and still have fun afterwards*.
*nb: "Afterwards" is somme time between 20 minutes and 37.3 years.
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But yes, I think it's possible to have an entirely platonic relationship with someone you find physically attractive.
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did you check out that greg egan book?
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and No
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Are you allowed sex if you canrry on being platonic friends afterwards,a gree it was fun, and get on with your lives without all that relationship stuff?
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Although it does depend on your need for ultimate gratification - if not having something you want will drive you insane eventually, it won't work.
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None taken. I didn't realise my WordPress/LiveJournal crossposter would also post from my Twitter/WordPress crossposter. Oh the joys of multiple plug-ins relying on (and dispatching) the same non-unique application calls. I've had a quick tinker and it should be fixed (i.e. not crossposting Twitter to LJ) but if you see it again, give me a shout.
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Not sure at all. Might have more to say later ;)
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BUT, but but but- IF I'm single and I find someone sexually attractive would I think (not ness act upon in any way) about having sex with them? Course I would. So is that platonic?
JmC
I have an icon for this and everything
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I'm sure he must have fancied a few women occasionally
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still, the silly bugger should have thought about that before writing symposium and phaedrus :P
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I'm sticking with my Yes then.
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JmC
My "wholesome" icons are somewhat sparse
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If the people behind it are actually friends though, or liek each other AS WELL as fancyign each other, it's good.
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It's easy to think you actually liek someone when all your ally want to do is fuck them, and once you have, you are like "oh, hang on - you are fit but dull"
On teh other hand you can genuinely liek people, think they ar fit, fuck them and still have fun afterwards*.
*nb: "Afterwards" is somme time between 20 minutes and 37.3 years.
*goes back to packing*
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